We the bloggers who chase simplicity say the following lines too much: “I am doing a shopping fast”, “I made a wish list”, ” I have too much”, “I am decluttering” or “I wanted these things but didn’t buy them”. Writing / reading these lines can get really boring really fast. My take on every aspect of style is not marred by how much I don’t consume. My answer to “what do you think of the red dress from the Dior Cruise collection” should not be “I don’t shop much”. I can still form opinions. I can still admire beautiful clothing. I can enjoy fashion for its innovation and as an art form. I can fall madly in love with things I can’t afford. I can admire things that are not my style. I can admire the craftsmanship. I can educate myself and become a true curator of my closet. With time, the emphasis shifted to ‘what is’ instead of ‘what isn’t’. I started writing my ‘On Handbags’, ‘On Perfume’, ‘On Makeup’, ‘On Visible Logos’, …. ‘On _____’ as a series which is my favorite brainchild on this blog. Slowly, a style manual emerged. Some axioms that still form the crux of it:
” Buy less, embrace simple design, choose better, make them last ”
” Reject soul-less clothing ”
“I am not all black and navy. It’s the details and the nuances that make up my style”.
“By 2018, I will find the perfect pair of ballet flats”.
“Perfection is over-rated”.
“Style muses exist to make us think, not to make us shop what they wore”.
” De-structured and understated elegance”
” The mastery of second-hand shopping. Yes, it has a learning curve like any other process.”
” Quality can be quantified given the knowledge of know hows ”
” The art of building a closet ”
” Reject phony style rules, ridiculously priced luxury must-haves parading as investments and lists of essentials every woman should have”.
” If you see a how-to-be-stylish guide, RUN from it !”
” Uniforms can be fun and customizable. Constraints breed creativity. ”
” Choose personal style over fashion. Rule-less fear-less guidelines that I create for myself is the way to go.”
” It’s not saving if it’s at the expense of someone else. Avoid the manufacturers who have no respect for the garment quality, human life and the environment. ”
” Color can be therapeutic ”
” Build that accessories closet”
The 10,000 hour rule :
First things first. There is a notion that spending any time thinking about clothes is time wasted. No ! It takes time and effort to learn anything in life. There is an old adage that a man should put in a lot of thought into picking out his clothing, can spend very little time putting it on and then forget about what he is wearing. That is my idea of investing into clothing. The effort that goes into choosing that pays off over the years. Do we know what works for us and never make mistakes? NO ! We change with time and adapt to what life throws at us. Making this evolution possible is a learning in itself for me. Are elegance and personal style imbibed into every human? I think not. It comes with experience and experimentation. There is always the safe shortcut of copying a style muse. We often buy what the influencers recommend and wear. Personal style is becoming homogenized and we often end up buying what’s popular. It’s way more rewarding figuring it out ourselves. When we start growing into ourselves and want to choose for ourselves is when the fun starts! The colors, the proportions, the silhouettes, the pairings and the balance of the feminine and the masculine ….. have to be our own conclusions. This book is what I learned during the first 1/100th of the 10,000-hours. It’s a journey, not a destination.