Things I am wrong about :
A fashion blogger is not to be blamed if I shop too much. Calling them names like ‘shopaholic blogger’ is quite distasteful. I have done so in the past. I apologize. Nobody but me is responsible for my shopping habits. If I click on every link they post and buy a lot of things, its my fault. My fault for the reading articles I have no business being around and acting on the impulses.
The French chic stereotype is trending in the reading material that I choose to read. Its a little over played out but I shouldn’t attack that style for being preached as the magical path to finding (personal) style salvation. If there needs to be a starting point, its a great one.
Enjoy the little details
There are details in my clothes that are only visible to my eyes. No body else notices them or even gets it when I talk about them. The little things make everything so much more pleasurable to me. I will pay the money for the staples that go the extra mile with good design details. There are days when I wear an all black outfit and not a single accessory. And applaud myself for the austerity of my basics. I am channeling Audrey Hepburn and the (imaginary) samurai monks at the same time. I feel good on those days too. My outfit is perfect because I picked it out with care and its truly mine.
Create an archive
There is a dress that I fell in love with this year. Its by Stella McCartney and its got
pinstripes. I can not wear it too often. Its my power suit equivalent for my day to day living. I plan to keep it for ever and get my cost per wear over the years. My Madewell blue dress looks fine in photographs but up close, its worn in. I am tired of it. I am storing it for a few months to bring it back in the future again. People have been calling my brown satchel – ‘buffalo bag’. It does not look elegant anymore. But it’s fit for a traveller who cant be bothered with these sort of nuances imposed by the civilization. I have archived it in the past and brought it back multiple times. Its 7 years old, worn in but I really use the heck out of it. Not out of some sort of guilt but for my pleasure. To me, sustainable fashion is about getting the most wear out of my clothing and not generating any waste. The ones I don’t sell away when I get a little bored of … But the ones that I take care of and wear till they are thread bare.
Be my own muse
Alexa Chung can make rags look couture. I don’t know how she just does it, but she does. People who have discovered their own style look very comfortable in their skin and wear their clothes really well. I have muses who have lessons for me – pairings, proportions, boldness, philosophy, posture, outfit ideas … A decade ago, I have tired to dress (exactly) like Audrey Hepburn, Jane Birkin and few others. None of them fit me. Instead of copying them, I now do me. There comes a point in everyones life when you are extremely comfortable in your own skin. I can say “I am my own muse” without feeling narcissistic about it. Its pure content and happiness that is behind those words. Another human being who must truly believe those words – Leandra Medine. She is fearless and does what she wants. That woman refuses to be put in a box of any sort – a true badass. She is the Diana Vreeland of my generation.
Dress for myself
I want to take pictures of my outfit. This is a style blog after all. Why should any one read my thoughts on personal style when they have never seen what I wear. Or listen to my commentary on trends. I started a few outfit of the day drafts apologizing for not being fashionable enough or for being repetitive. Until I realize thats self defeating of all I have achieved. I don’t find myself boring. None of my garments are ordinary .They help me survive the day. And my days are not easy. I dress for myself and its a good thing. Nobody including myself should make me believe that I dress in a boring manner. Although I do get a few curious “How can you of all people write a fashion blog ? You are dressed normal. I wear more daring outfits than you. Isn’t fashion about those ridiculous shows and outlandish magazine editorials? ” Well, its for my kind of women too.
Playing it too safe and being terrified of making mistakes
I can look back into my past and cringe about a lot of things. But living a life with regrets amounts to wasted brain space. So what if every garment I own is not perfect to the dot ? So what if I took a chance and experimented a little ? Sofia Coppola wasn’t born wearing woolen trousers and a navy blue jumper. Phoebe Philo had her share of experiments. Its okay to dare a little and evolve. Don’t want to get hung up on finding that perfect garment or chase perfection to the dot. Remember the bigger picture of what I want to accomplish in my lifetime and the amount of time I want to spend thinking about clothing.
No one style is better than the other. As long as there are no sweatshops involved, every garment is fair game. The head to toe Celine aesthetic is not better than head to toe Gucci aesthetic. Its a matter of choice and preference. How can I forget all those years of my life in India where I got bullied for what I wore ? But I strongly believe that simplicity is tied to human progress. When we let go of the corsets and the ruffles, it liberated women. When we pick outfits we cant move in, for the sake of a show, its defeating in some sense. When we don’t have to wear high heels that we cant walk in, its empowering. To be judged based on your work and not on what you wear, is progressive.
Adverse reactions to advertising
Glossier. Everyone around me is raving about their products and I now want to try some. The only reason I stay away was that one bad experience with their PR. And the fact that I see it everywhere. If a product is good, it is good. I should be able to see through the fluff and try products without prejudice.
I didn’t have access to the minimal aesthetic until it became trendy. I could stock up on my needs to my hearts content during this period. Thats reason enough to not look down upon trends. Someone could be looking for straw bags for years and not find them ( until they were everywhere last summer). I am waiting for mauve to become the pantone color of the year because I want a turtle neck in that color. I mock the trends for fun and for some sort of hedonistic pleasure I get out of it all.
I no longer have anything to declutter. I don’t own any disposables. Everything in my closet gets used. Things leave after they wear out. Its the way it should have been all along. But it is now. I am rather proud of this post : Simplify, closet. Of all the things I let go from my closet, there is one thing that haunts me. Proenza Schouler PS1 bag. Its the perfect bag in the looks and aesthetics department. But the sagging leather defeats the purpose of it being a satchel. I will always always remember it fondly. Its that one thing I don’t have, almost had and let go. But for a good reason.
If fast fashion is morally wrong, half the population of India should be walking around naked. When struggling to make ends meet, worrying about the right clothes to wear is not possible. I will even say : I rather have that child work in a sweatshop than go dumpster diving in a toxic landfill and sleep on the street. On the other side of the coin, there are a lot of folk in the developed nations who buy fast fashion and save at the expense of those are are exploited in the third world countries. The terrible truth of it all : fast fashion exists because of the demand. I can only decide whats right for me. Buying clothing made in terrible conditions to save the $$ that I will use to buy my organic food or my next home or my next vacation is not right on my part. Right and wrong is very subjective. I am currently … in search of more data to make up my mind.
I would like to hear your thoughts about subjectivity of the right and wrong of fast fashion. Do you think of it as an absolute source of pollution and exploitation ? (I once did.) Or do you draw a line based on circumstances? Have you figured out a way to talk about it without screaming “murder” at the ones who only consider the economics before every clothing purchase ? This week, I visited a sweatshop that weaves cotton cloth and it made me very thankful for all the privileges that gave me the life I currently have. I wouldn’t argue for all of them to loose their jobs but for better work conditions so that they need not work from a hole that is more fit for rats.