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I am in India and will be here for a month. I hope to use this time to get an eye surgery, travel a little, attend a 10 day wedding of my sisters, accelerate a few side projects that I have put off for a while and spend time with my family.

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On Gift Guides

I love figuring out what a loved one might need and the thought process that goes into it. I don’t consult any gift guides since I really know the people I would be gifting. In the event of my not knowing what to buy, I rather pick up the phone and have a good conversation to figure it out than buy generic products.

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The 2016 experiment

Over the last few years, we took some useless cheaply made stuff that nobody really needs. Unhealthy chemical concoctions from Bath and Body Works, cheaply made clothes made in Bangladeshi sweatshops, makeup kits, small leather bags with visible logos, sugar filled treats, … and what ever else is good when it comes to quantity over quality. This year, we are trying something new. We picked out things that we absolutely love and use in our home. The true tried and tested gems that we had to save up to buy for ourselves. Our beloved chef’s knife, the hand-stitched sandals I got Harsha for his birthday, the perfume I want but wont buy for myself, organic protein rich grains, an heirloom quality cast iron tea pot, a clutch I wouldn’t mind keeping for myself, … And matched them to people we thought would value the item like we do and actually need it. This meant that we couldn’t take something for everyone. I hope this wont offend people. I will know soon enough.

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The Update 

Wouldn’t call it a success so far. Folks who got their gifts liked them. At first glance, they got everyday ordinary items with zero novelty factor. They wouldn’t know the value of the products until they start using them. And ones who didn’t get any, didn’t get any. And my parents aren’t pleased with this. “You could have gotten them some chocolates at-least”, I got chided.

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A conclusion

I did imply that gifts need to be high quality items that are truly useful. I did also imply that we should gift on need basis. This could be the worst gift giving guide on the internet. I am not even sure I stand by this idea. When I did the math, this is the more sustainable one in the long run. An even more sustainable idea ? Gift experiences and time. My mother wants to do yoga with me every single day and my father wants to travel with me. Been doing that and life has been good.


Would you dare to gift on need basis ? What does quality over quantity mean to you when it comes to gift giving ?